Jobs that Deserve More Credit

Here is another installment in the "posts I never truly finished for EgoTV" category. 

Firemen, Policemen, Doctors, and Teachers are all jobs that deserve high praise and generally recieve it.  On the other hand, there are several jobs that deserve credit but generally only recieve it in small circles.  Below are a few of these.

Sales People
When people think sales, many of them think about the stereotypical used car salesman and the dinner-time telemarketer, and a few bad words come to mind. This is unfortunate. Without sales, no business can get off the ground and no business can succeed. A lot of people will tell you that sales is about being able to bullshit – and that is true to some extent – but it’s also about a lot more. It’s about knowing how to interact with people; when to talk and when to listen; when to push and when to give in, but it’s also about knowing your product and competition inside and out. Mostly though it’s about closing, and this is something that takes a special skill. Anyone can buy a drink for the hot girl at the bar, but not anyone can get her home.

Novelists
Uh, is this guy talking about books? Yes, yes I am. Books are to entertainment what the mid-range jumper in basketball – generally not flashy, but equally effective. Sure, television and movies get all the credit, but before they can be made the story must first be written. Authors must be able to write of course, and be good storytellers, but again, it is so much more than that. Authors have to be creative enough to come up with something compelling and interesting and worth reading, and then they have to do what it takes to execute. Take Dan Brown (The DaVinci Code) for instance - regardless of if you like his style or his books. He had to come up with a story line, do the necessary research into the Vatican and religious symbology plus understand the geography of Europe, mix fact with fiction, create characters we could relate to, and tell a compelling story. You don’t just wake up one morning and write a best-selling novel. One book could take years and years and years, and for most writers it’s a side hobby.

Movie Director
Thanks to ‘Entourage’ I can add this to this list. Movie Directors have to not only have a vision for a successful movie, but they have to deal with studio heads, manage actors (and their different personalities and egos), manage film crews, special effects, budgets, schedules, shoot locations, etc. Being a movie director is about a lot more than sitting in a high chair and yelling ‘cut’. To be successful you have to be a salesman, a marketer, an artist, a psychologist, a team-leader and a team player.

Friend Zone

Well, it appears my run with Ego TV has come to an end.  I guess it's not official (no one has told me as much), but my latest article was submitted over 2-weeks ago and as of yet has still not been posted.  I am not taking it too hard because, as anyone who has frequented their website knows, our general content doesn't really mesh (I'm less 'adult-male, pop-culture' focused).  I did broaden my article topics and it was definitely a learning experience.  Hopefully Ego TV has a few more fans thanks to my writing and maybe some of you saw my stuff over there and have become regular readers of The Gift and The Goods. 

Below is my most recent submission.  Again, not sure it's right for this blog, but I already wrote it, and for the world to miss out would be a shame.  Hopefully you'll like it.

The Friend Zone
Written by “The Gift”

When a guy sees a girl he immediately classifies her – not his type, dateable (the kind of girl he can take home to mom) or f#&kable (hit it and quit it). Shallow as it is, a guy generally won’t even talk to a girl if she doesn’t fit one of those latter two categories. By association, a guy and girl can never really be friends – because he’ll always want more.

For many young and/or naïve men, being friends seems like a good way to develop a relationship with a woman. For the rest of us, we’ll enjoy a laugh at your expense.

What you’re thinking: I’ll get to know this girl. I’ll be there for her; offer my shoulder to cry on if she needs it. I’ll prove myself. I’ll form a bond with her that will eventually work into a relationship.

What she’s thinking: I have a guy who will tell me how beautiful I am, make me feel good about myself, kill spiders for me and listen to me vent about other guys, AND I don’t have to sleep with him.

Your Out: You have at max three hangouts in order to make a move – go for a kiss, ask her out, etc. After that, you’re doomed to the Friend Zone.

Once you’re in the Friend Zone you have only one option. Be bold. I’m not talking about confessing your undying love. In fact, it’s just the opposite. You need to find someone else, pull-away, change the relationship. If you can make her miss you, make her angry, or make her jealous, you may have a chance. You need to force her to feel things for you that she hasn’t before.

I know you’re thinking you can wait it out or just tell her how you feel, but these are sucker moves. Let me tell you why.

Wait it out: So she’s dating other guys and you’re pining. Even if things don’t work out with the other guy, your jealousy will eat at you. And it will show. And once she knows she has you, she doesn’t want you.

Tell her how you feel: Girls want a challenge. She already knows she has you, and your confession only proves her point. She hasn’t developed those feelings for you and she won’t just because you tell her you’d ‘give her the world’ or ‘that no one has ever loved a girl as much as you love her’. You know the expression “you don’t know what you had until you’ve lost it”? Learn it.

If you’re afraid of losing the friendship it’s most likely doomed anyway. Your pent up feelings and jealousy will eventually cause you to alienate yourself or alienate her. Over time that friendship will fade away into nothing and all you’ll be left with are regrets about what might have been.

Your best bet: State your intentions up front. You don’t have to act on them right away, but let her know within those first few hang-outs that she should be evaluating you on the dateability scale. Again, I don’t suggest confessing your undying love. Be subtle initially. Drop little indications of your feelings; compliment her. Then you can get more bold. Tell her you think she’s attractive and that the friendship thing won’t be enough. Tell her you’re willing to put in the time as a friend, but that eventually she’s gonna have to either take a chance on you or on losing you. Make her think about you in a sexual/romantic way. Make her wonder who you really are. Don’t be ‘safe’.

Philly, Philly

If this doesn't evoke some kind of response from my readers, I don't know what will.

http://egotvonline.com/2010/01/28/philadelphia-%E2%80%93-home-of-the-underdog/

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